[Chatting] My wife who dreamed of being a black and white cook...He went to a cooking academy and asked for a divorce from his affair.

□ Broadcast date and time: October 11, 2024 (Fri)
□ Host: Attorney Jo In-seop

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◇ Lawyer Cho In-seop (hereinafter referred to as Cho In-seop): When you look at a person's life, life is a drama. I don't know how many characters are in the drama and what will happen, but the ending will be a happy ending. <Attorney Cho In-seop's Counseling Office> Today is Real Theater Day, where your story is turned into a drama.

◇ Jo In-seop: Lawhouse for you, small talk. Let's meet today's protagonists first.

◆ Male: I'm an ordinary office worker. I once dreamed of becoming a chef. So as soon as I graduated from college, I enrolled in a cooking academy. The instructor was a person with a delicate taste and excellent skills. And my wife was a student who was always scolded by her instructor. We became close quickly because we were the same age, and we became lovers.

△ Male (cooking instructor): Well, what kind of food did you prepare?

◈ Woman (wife before marriage / 20s): It's pork belly with Jeju-do salted fish. We prepared thick pork belly and salted fish because they boast a fantastic combination.

△ [Cooking instructor] The most important thing for me is the degree to which the meat is cooked. I'm sorry, but that pork belly is baked wrong. The meat is not cooked evenly. It's not cooked to an even degree. That man's meat over there is perfect. Pass... I'll give it to you.

◈ YA: Wow, you always get compliments. I get scolded all the time. Can I be a chef?

◆ B: Of course. You're going to be fine! Geniuses can't beat those who try!

◈ Yes! I will definitely be a chef! Ahn Sungjae~ Jongwon Baek? Call me Dumbi~
◆ M: I'm quick-handed and well-seasoned. I was a prospective chef, but I had no choice but to quit. You were told by a fortune teller that my mother was brave, that I should be careful of the fire. My parents told me I shouldn't have dirt in my eyes to be a fire cook, so I ended up getting a job instead. It was just after I got a job at a general company and my wife at a Korean restaurant. He called me to his house.

◈ Yeo: Honey, come on. Eat some meat wraps. Hurry up and do it!

◆ M: Oh~ Huh? I can chew something hard. What's this? What? It's a ring.
◈ For the rest of my life... I won't let you get a drop of water on your hands. I'm going to cook for you. Please marry me.

◆ Man: My wife really kept her promise. No matter how busy I was, I prepared a meal full of sincerity. We had a son and a daughter, and my wife quit the restaurant to focus on parenting.

◈ Yeo: Honey. You know it's your mother's birthday next month, right? My mother and father... Shall we go on a trip to the nearby sea with all of my brother's family? I found a pension, and it looked really good. There's a swimming pool, so I think it'll be good for my nephews and kids to play with.

◆ Man: Honey, thank you so much every time. Last time, you had a hard time preparing 12 tables for your father's birthday. . How can you be a wife like this? I have to carry you on my back.

◈ YA: Okay~ You don't have a wife like this, do you? So be nice to me~

◆ Man: I really wanted to be good to my wife who is devoted to my family. So when my wife said she wanted to get a job as a lecturer at a cooking academy because her children grew up, she said she would actively support her. But... I never thought it would be a seed of misfortune for my couple. No, I'm going to Thailand for training for 3 days and 2 nights at the cooking academy. Well, that's possible. But the problem was that my wife is a Korean food cook.

◈ Why are you going to Thailand? I'm thinking about making Tom Yum Goong a little Korean. How about Tom Yum Goong like Yukgaejang? I'm going to study that kind of thing. Those fusion dishes are popular these days.

◆ M: Oh really? Okay. I don't know what you're talking about, but there must be a reason because you're doing it. Have a safe trip. I'll be watching the kids.

◈ Yeo: Yes, I'll be back safely. I need to practice Thai. Hello, Sawatdika~

◆ B: My wife often worked overtime even after going to Thailand. I didn't have any doubts then. But one day... I turned on the laptop that my wife and I share. . I opened the door to hell. There were shocking pictures on my wife's SNS. These were pictures of his wife touching a young man. Thailand has also been with him. Since that day, I've been in so much pain that I can't get my hands on my work and need psychiatric counseling. I thought about getting divorced, but I didn't want to let my children grow up in a divorced family. After all those months, it seemed she noticed that I had learned all the facts.

◈ Yeo: You know... Phew... I won't ask you to forgive me. Love is not a sin, is it?

◆ Man: Who the hell is he? Let's know that. Are you a student at the academy?

◈ Are you crazy? You're going to meet the student? It's just a guy I got to know.

◆ M: I can't go on like this. I looked up this and that and there was a mutual lawsuit, but do I need to know the information of the mutual lawsuit if I want to file a mutual lawsuit? And I wonder if there's any way I can stop my cheating wife from taking custody and custody. Lawyer! Help!

◇ Cho In-seop: "Jo In-seop's Counseling Office" Let's talk with the main character of today's story.

◆ M: Lawyer... I don't think divorce is... I'll divorce you for who's good! First of all, I want to file a mutual lawsuit first, but I don't have to file a mutual lawsuit and a divorce lawsuit at the same time, right?

◇ Cho In-seop: Yes, in the case of a legal marriage, if the responsibility of the spouse or third party breaks down, you can claim compensation from the spouse or third party, and you can claim compensation for damages due to illegal activities separately from the divorce lawsuit.

◆ M: But... I don't know much about it. What's the difference between filing a business suit and a divorce suit?

◇ Cho In-seop: Yes, the jurisdiction of the court will change. In the case of a divorce report after consultation divorce or a lawsuit for damages against an absentee along with a divorce lawsuit, it is under the jurisdiction of the Family Court as a compensation lawsuit for damages caused by divorce, but if a claim is filed only against an absentee without a consultation divorce or divorce lawsuit, it is under the jurisdiction of the Civil Court. In addition, there may be some differences in the amount of alimony from the case of a compensation lawsuit for damages caused by divorce.

◆ M: Ah, the alimony amount. Well, I'd like to file a mutual lawsuit first. But I really don't know who Sanggan is. Can we still file a mutual lawsuit?

◇ Cho In-seop: There is. However, if you know the phone number of the person rather than if you do not know any information about the person, you can check the facts for the defendant after receiving the complaint with the court. At this time, the defendant's resident number can be specified through a telecommunications company, and then a copy of resident registration can be issued by the court to specify the address of the person. If there is no information on the Sanginja at all, the other party's call records can be inquired through the court to specify it, or if there is a record of entering and leaving the Sanginja there, you can also specify the Sanginja by inquiring about the vehicle number.

◆ M: Oh, I'll have to look into it like that. Well, actually, my wife keeps asking me to divorce her. I'm in a position that I can never do it. What if... what if my wife files for divorce?

◇ Jo In-seop: There is no way to prevent a liable spouse from filing a divorce lawsuit itself, but our court does not accept a divorce claim made by a person who is primarily responsible for the breakdown of a marriage based on the principle of liability. However, the divorce claim is cited even if it is objectively clear that the other spouse has no intention of continuing the marriage, that is, if the other spouse is not responding to the divorce only in terms of coming or retaliation, but in reality, it is not compatible with the continuation of the marriage. In recent years, he has carefully judged whether the other spouse and children are protected enough to offset the liability of the spouse who filed for divorce, whether the liability of the spouse and the mental pain suffered by the other spouse have been weakened over time, the period of separation, the life relationship of the couple formed after separation, the degree of social and economic conditions of the other spouse, and the welfare situation of parenting and education of underage children should be considered if divorce is recognized. In other words, a divorce claim from a liable spouse does not necessarily mean that it is dismissed, but it is not easy to cite a liable spouse's divorce claim because it must be able to meet the specific requirements set by the court in order for it to be cited. However, when you engage in a written battle or undergo a domestic investigation in response to a divorce request from a liable spouse, you often suffer from severe mental pain, and the sender also decides to divorce.

◆ M: Oh, is that so? I don't want to divorce you yet, but... what should I do if I change my mind?

◇ Cho In-seop: Yes, in that case, you can file a "Counterclaim" with the same court during the divorce proceedings.

◆ M: And... You said 'household survey' earlier, right? What are you investigating?

◇ Jo In-seop: For the purpose of smooth family dispute resolution, the Family Court may have a domestic investigator investigate the cause of the breakdown, the intention of the party to divorce, whether marital counseling is needed, the current economic situation, and the intention of the party to divide the property, etc. through a family investigation order if it is necessary to reveal the facts by sharply confronting the parties' claims, such as the situation of the sender. In particular, in the case of you, one party wants a divorce and the other party does not, so fact-finding is usually conducted on divorce positions, etc., and there are cases where "couple counseling" is also conducted if both parties agree. ∀, I don't think your mom wants to get marital counseling. What do other people usually do?

◇ Jo In-seop: Usually, if one party wants marital counseling, it seems that it is often done by recommending marital counseling to have time to think about each other even if the other party shows signs of dislike. However, in cases involving cheating and domestic violence, the court also approaches it carefully, and if the person considered to be the victim refuses, it is not recommended. In the case of you, if the other person is a liable spouse and you want, you should strongly ask for marital counseling.

◆ M: Yes, I don't know if it's possible, but I'll try it. If I were to file for divorce, would my wife lose her parental rights and custody? My wife started working recently, but she's been the main caregiver of my children.

◇ Jo In-seop: Even if one of the spouses cheated in the divorce lawsuit, it does not mean that they cannot become the parental authority or custody of their children. This is because the court prioritizes the welfare and stability of children when designating custody of their children, and unlike cases of harm to children such as violence, even spouses who cheat are faithful to their role as parents. However, in ordinary cases, spouses who cheat often neglect their children and are responsible for the breakdown of marriage, so it is difficult to regard them as factors that are completely irrelevant to the fight for parental rights and custody.

◆ Man: I see. I'll have to make up my mind.

◇ Cho In-seop: Yes, cheer up. a counseling center for lawyer Cho In-seop We've met today's storyteller. Lawyer Cho In-seop's counseling center... The counseling center is always with you. I'll say goodbye as I play the last song for you. This has been "Loyer Jo Inseop."