[Smiling] My husband wants to name the twin birth name "Aron, Darong" as his real name...Will it be a reason for divorce?

□ Broadcast date and time: December 13, 2024 (Fri)
□ Host: Attorney Jo In-seop

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◆ Lawyer Cho In-seop (hereinafter referred to as Cho In-seop): When you look at a person's life, life is a drama. I don't know how many characters are in the drama and what will happen, but the ending will be a happy ending. <Attorney Cho In-seop's Counseling Office> Today is Real Theater Day, where your story is turned into a drama.

● Female: I've been married for about eight years, and I'm expecting a baby. I met my husband for the first time while doing a secondhand transaction. I had a dog even before I got married, and I bought a padded jumper for my dog to wear in the winter, but it didn't fit me. So I put it up in a used market... It was my husband who came out to buy it.


- First meeting

◎ [Husband] Do you happen to... Cucumber market? Did you get a secondhand deal?

● Y: Yes, hello! Are you out to buy a padded jacket?

◎ M: Yes, yes! That's right. I was going to the ski resort this winter and needed a padded jumper for our Mansour.

● [Heroine] Right? I searched for it for 3 nights and 4 days and chose it. You really grabbed it! But... Oh, I guess the dog's name is Mansour? Oh my! Butina is a name. My dog's name is Bokhee. Happy to be lucky! Happy to be lucky!

◎ [Husband] Bokhee? It sounds like a human name. By the way... This is meant to be, too, so why don't we take a walk together?

● YA: Oh my! Are you asking me out? If you do this all of a sudden... It's so nice. When should we go? How about right now?

◎ Man: No, we don't have dogs right now... (The twist) preliminary research is important. Where shall we go?

● Yeo: My husband and I often took our dogs for a walk. Then I started dating naturally, and when I came to my senses... He was using the same bed. My husband and I had happy days with our dogs. It would have been great to have a baby there that looked like me and my husband... I haven't had a baby I've been waiting for nearly eight years since I got married. After discussing with my husband, I went to a fertility hospital. And a few months later...

◎ M: Honey, what do you mean you have something to say?

● YA: Yes... I have something for you. Now, open the envelope here.

◎ M: What is it? Is it money? You want to give me some allowance? Oh? There's a picture. What is this... What kind of picture is it?

● YA: Yes~ My baby's picture! I'm pregnant! That's also twins.~

◎ M: Really? Are we going to be six members now? Honey~~ You did a great job!

● Female: The twins had a girl's gender. My husband called the children Arong and Darong. But…... I never dreamed that Arong really wanted to name Darong.

◎ M: Honey... I've always wanted to give a name when I have a daughter.

● YA: Oh my~ What are you going to do if it's your son? Do you have twins? It's Lucky's baby. What's your pre-named name?

◎ M: Yeah... Arong, Darong! Park Da Rong! Park Da Rong! What do you think?

● Yeo: Aron... Darong? It's Arong? It's a birth name... You... Are you kidding me?

◎ M: I'm not kidding~ Arong~ Darong~ How pretty is it? It's a Korean name! When I saw the ultrasound picture, I got the inspiration. Isn't it perfect for a daughter's name?

● YA: Honey~ It's like a dog's name! It's not even an Aron incident... Isn't that funny? My dog Bokhee seems more like a human name! Let's name it another name. Huh?

◎ M: No! I'll definitely do it with this name! Arong and Darong!

● Yeo: I said that you can't do Arong or Darong. I convinced them to think about when they became adults. But my husband didn't even listen to my ear.

◎ M: Honey, I... I'm living my life to you. We did everything you wanted when we picked the bed and the interior. Can't you just name the kids as I want? Arong and Darong... It's my dream.

● YA: Ha... Honey... No matter how much I think about it, I don't think so. A name is the first gift from a parent to a child. It's so important in life!

◎ M: I can't. Not a chance. I can't give up even if there's dirt in my eyes! Aron! Aron! Aron!

● Woman: The husband was firm. I'm as full as Namsan, so I can give birth anytime, but he didn't talk to me for two weeks. At this point, I'm so sad for my husband. Even sleeping separately in the living room. I want to break up with my husband if he continues to insist like that even after the children are born, would that be a reason for divorce? Lawyer! Help me!

◆ Jo In-seop: Lawyer Jo In-seop's counseling center. Let's talk with the main character of today's story.

● [Female] Attorney... If anyone hears this, you're going to decide to divorce me. I don't know if you say I'm immature, but I... It's really upsetting. If you're so stubborn with just one child's name, you'll be raising children, education... I think there will be a lot of encounters. Can I get divorced because of my child's name?

◆ Jo In-seop: These days, diversity, such as individual names, is respected, and some of the names do not necessarily follow their father's side, but also follow their mother's last name. However, if you try to break the long-standing custom of names, there may be conflicts, which in turn leads to divorce. In order to divorce, the court cites the divorce request only when it falls under each subparagraph of Article 840 of the Civil Code. Representatively, there are reasons such as having an affair with one spouse or not entering the house for several years for no reason, and actually living separately for a long time, leading to the breakdown of the marriage. It is difficult to say that naming a child at will or giving a strange name falls under any of the reasons for divorce under Article 840 of the Civil Code. Because it's not normal that a couple's life cannot survive because of a child's name unless it's very special and exceptional.

● YA: Ah... Really? You can't divorce them because of their names, can you? Then... She doesn't even pretend to see her full-term wife... What about sleeping separately? This would be a reason for divorce, right?

◆ Jo In-seop: Among the reasons for divorce in Article 840 of the Civil Code I just mentioned, there is an item called "When the spouse abandoned the other party with malicious intent." Our Supreme Court has long defined the meaning of this abandonment as "a case in which spouses give up their obligations as a couple to live together, support, and cooperate with each other without justifiable reasons and abandon the other." In other words, if you don't live in the house, don't pay your wife who is a full-time housewife and raising a child, or pass on and neglect one side for housework, childcare, or all household-related lives, it can be considered an abandonment. In the case of the story, the husband's failure to speak to his full-term wife for two weeks due to his name can be seen as a kind of neglect, but it is quite difficult to regard it as a reason for divorce under civil law. They just don't talk and live together in the same house, and it seems that the story alone is helping him solve the supporting factor. So you can't claim a divorce because you don't talk to me.

● (Sighing) Ha... Really? Marriage is hard, but divorce is harder? Then... I gave up a hundred times, so I named the children Arong and Darong as my husband wanted. But if kids get teased later... So if you get stressed... What is it? Alimony! Can you claim that?

◆ Cho In-seop: In the end, I named the children Park Cho Rong Chorong and Park Mi Rong A Rong as my husband wanted, but it can be stressful if I have to be teased by people around me and explain why I named them like that because they are not common names. If you suffer a long period of time and then file for divorce later, you could argue that alimony should be paid because your husband's insistence has caused your wife and children to suffer. However, alimony is unlikely to be recognized because there is a limit to arguing for children's stress as an issue in a parent's divorce case, and the husband does not appear to have made the name on purpose to cause them pain.

● YA: Ah... Really? Then... Do I have to do what my husband wants me to do? Can you really do this? What would you do if you were a lawyer?

◆ Cho In-seop: Yes, it's a very unfortunate situation. No matter how much I talk to my husband, if he doesn't change his attitude, I even thought about getting divorced because of this, but still, do you not change your mind at all, I am so seriously stressed, why don't you talk about this?

● YA: Yes... Thank you for listening to me. I think I have a lot of emotional ups and downs because I'm about to give birth.

◆ Cho In-seop: Yes, for now, I just want you to think about giving birth in good health. a counseling center for lawyer Cho In-seop We've met today's storyteller.